December 7, 2009

Adoption & Family Tree Grafting

The search for your family history is the search for your family’s story and adoption stories are among the most compelling. Just watch the new ABC reality show “Find My Family”.(No, I’m not crying. I’ve got something in my eye. Stop looking at me!)

Adoption stories are stories of love and acceptance. I’ve been blessed to know many people who have been adopted and others who have adopted or are in the process of adopting. The bonds that are formed are like a mended bone - stronger than one that was never broken.

If you or someone you are researching has been adopted, it may be confusing to work on two family lines – the blood line and the adopted line. On the practical side, the blood line will reveal much about potential health. And on the sentimental side, one’s adoptive family history is just as important to them. Tracing both can get messy. Tracing a blood line for an adoptee might be difficult if records are sealed or misplaced. There are some hurdles no genealogist can clear. But don’t be discouraged. Time will tell. Until then, focus on what you can find and grow your family tree with what you have.

Charting your family tree with both lines can also be difficult. There’s no standard for signifying an adoptive relationship so most people simply make a double-crowned tree with the adoptee at the bottom, fanning up to 3 or 4 parents (whatever the case may be), grafting the two families onto each other. It may look different but not every family tree has to fit the perfect “V” shaped mold. Just like grafted trees, they can be uniquely beautiful.

November 20, 2009

Spiritual Lineage

Have you ever considered your spiritual lineage?

As a Christian, I belong to a family of believers; there is my church family, but there is also the much larger family of Christians worldwide, made up of countless brothers and sisters in Christ. And then there are the Christians from whom I am descended. I am a Christian because someone shared Christ with me. And they were a Christian because someone shared Christ with them. And so on and so forth all the way back to someone who had a personal encounter with Jesus. That means that I am a descendant of Jesus! I may not be able to trace that family tree, but I can’t wait for the family reunion.

It makes me think. Do I have any spiritual descendants? Do you?

November 19, 2009

There's an ap for that

It seems like everybody and their grandfather is on Facebook these days. One way to know for sure is by using one of a few applications Facebook offers to keep track of your relatives. Applications like FamilyLink (formerly called “We’re Related”) and Family Tree are a good way of noting who you’re related to and how. Even your friends can see your Facebook family tree.

But I’m not sure how useful this is since that’s pretty much all you can do. Sure, you can see how far your tree currently branches but ultimately we’re all cousins and who really cares if you’re 23rd cousins twice-removed with someone in Bangladesh? (I’m sorry, cousin Ahmed. I didn’t mean that. Please don’t un-friend me!)

November 3, 2009

Holy Moses

I always try to have an end game for anything I do; a goal, something that drives me to push forward. In genealogy especially. Otherwise it can just get mind-numbing searching for names and dates. And my goal will change from time to time, to whatever I find more interesting or elusive.

One of my goals for the past year or two has been to find the final resting place of my Great-Great-Grandfather, Moses Baker (not to be confused with my Great-Grandfather, Moses Alexander Baker). I know that he brought the Bakers into Tennessee from North Carolina via Mississippi around 1850. And I even found a copy of his obituary in the local newspaper.
But it isn’t very specific about where he was buried. Where is “here”? Bolivar? Crainsville? I’ve searched every available cemetery record and can’t find anything. But there is rumor of a Crainsville Cemetery where the community used to be. However, it is on private property owned by a very private person. Others who have told me of this cemetery say that the owner has piled brush and wood on it.

Perhaps one day I’ll work up the courage to ask if I can visit this cemetery. Hopefully it will really be there. Hopefully there are still headstones. Hopefully they might be legible. Hopefully Moses Baker will be there. If and when I do find my current genealogical Holy Grail, I’ll finally be able to move on to my next goal.

October 15, 2009

Profile: Thomas Blassingame

Born: 1710, Virginia
Died: 1772, South Carolina
Relationship to me: 7th Great-Grandfather

Court records show Thomas Blassingame served on a grand jury as many as eleven times. This is an indication that he was probably a free holder and a respected member of his community. He married a woman named Frances between 1732 and 1735.
However, by 1740, history records that he took a turn for the worse. That year he misbehaved in court and was put in stocks (hinged wooden boards that formed holes through which the head and/or various limbs were inserted and locked together) for one hour.

Two years later, disrespecting the court landed him in the pillory. Unlike stocks which allowed the captive to roam freely (or hide), the pillory was fixed in a public location allowing the community to scorn the offender and throw objects at him such as rotten food or stones. But the pillory was no match for Thomas’ temper. He broke the stocks off and ran away.

The next year, 1743, found Thomas married to a Katherine Carr. After that, Thomas began moving south, first to North Carolina and finally to South Carolina where he died around 1772. He had 5 children including John Blassingame who fought in the American Revolution.

October 5, 2009

Home Movie Day

If you're lucky enough to have grown up with a video camera in your home you probably have a wealth of home movies. There are those who might even have reels of old 8mm or 16mm of their parents and grandparents.


This October 17th is the day to dig them out, dust them off and show them. Home Movie Day is an international event started to bring friends and families together to share their home movies. This is also a great event to have at your church, social club, family reunion or employee picnic. What a great way to bring people together and learn more about them.


You can even make a game out of it! Have everyone put their movies into a box or bag. A designated "Movie Master" will randomly pull them out and play them. Then everyone can try and recognize people in the movie and identify who's movie it is. You can cap the event off with your own awards ceremony by handing out faux Oscar trophies for catagories like "Most Embarrasing Movie," "Cutest Baby" and "Most Memorable."


So mark your calendars. Gather your family, your neighbors and/or your friends and share that sentimental celluloid, those vintage VHS's, or your DVDs of days gone by. And don't forget the popcorn!


www.HomeMovieDay.com

September 9, 2009

National Grandparents Day

This Sunday is National Grandparents Day. It was started in 1978 by President Jimmy Carter. Take this weekend and call or visit your grandparents. If they are no longer living, visit their grave and share memories of them with family and friends. National Grandparents Day also encourages you to adopt a grandparent to benefit from a lifetime of experience waiting to be shared.


www.Grandparents-Day.com